Things you do to Get Over Heartbreak. We made this episode with a lot of love for men/women who are nursing a broken heart.
Unless you married your high school sweetheart who you met when you were 14 (I know a few people who fall into this category, and part of me is envious of you) you probably have gone through one of the following situations:
1. You went through a terrible breakup that has left you bleary eyed, shaken, and afraid you lost your soul mate.
2. You have been cheated on or cheated on someone and you're feeling upset and confused.
3. You broke up a while ago but have just seen (thank you Facebook) that your ex is getting married, had a baby, or is posting a million pictures with his new person and you can't help but think "maybe I shouldn't have let them go" or "I'll never find love like that again" or "I'm not as good as her."
4. You're in a relationship now that just isn't working and you don't know what to do. You love this person but there are a ton of red flags and you're lonely and lost.
5. You thought you've completely moved on but you had a dream about an ex and wonder why you still have feelings for them.
Here are 6 Ways to Overcome Heartbreak:
1. Feel the feelings and don't force yourself to "just get over it."
Getting over a broken heart can take a lot of energy, work, and time. Don't try to force yourself or listen to anyone who says "just get over it". You might think you're over it, then have a dream about this person and get flushed with feeling all over again. It can take a long time, and that's okay, so be very gentle with yourself. It helps to talk to someone about it like a trusted friend or coach for guidance moving through the feelings.
2. Get the energy out.
This is especially needed if you're feeling a lot of anger. Anger, sadness, anxiety, grief, depression, are all energies that want to be released from your body.
3. Forgive.
Forgiveness is not about the other person or letting them off the hook. Forgiveness is for YOU. In fact, the definition of forgiveness is to stop feeling anger or blame at someone who has done something wrong.
4. Be honest with yourself.
Be honest with yourself if you're truly wanting to get over a broken heart or if you're harboring secret hopes that the two of you will get back together. While this is not wrong in any way (many of us feel it!), if the relationship is over, it will definitely impede your progress of moving on.
5. Take back your personal power.
Get back to your own personal power as soon as you can. You may not be able to control what your ex does, but you can control your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
6. Live an outstanding life.
Get back to your centre. Right now get out a piece of paper and write down 10 nurturing things you can do to help you get back to your strong grounded self. Call a friend, set up a coaching session, take a yoga class, buy flowers for yourself, take a bath, go for a long walk while listening to your favorite playlist, clean out your emails, declutter your closet and donate what you no longer need, go to the bookstore and buy Getting the Love You Want, He's Just Not That Into You, The Breakup Bible to start empowering yourself.
Don't allow this breakup to continue hurting you by hardening your heart and closing off to new love. Get out there. Meet with friends. Live. Laugh. Love. Be happy.
The secret to getting over a breakup lies within you. If you find yourself continuing down the same path with the same type of guys, then commit to uncovering and healing your patterns.
Keep faith that you will find amazing soul level love. You deserve it.
All the love,
BQ
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